There is no fea…

There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love.

1 John 4:18

but perfect love casts out fear 

I used to be scared for being in love and to give love.

But for him, only him, I don’t fear and not afraid.

That I now understand that God has given me the Gift of Perfect Love.

The Love that casts out fear.


A June Reflection

I don’t know what happen to me in the past 2-3 days, but there are things that will always be a burden to me, that is thinking of him. Once that I got my internship I feel highly excited and motivated, but then I feel an unexplainable loneliness, and then my insecurities and worry come out-out of the blue. It made me sick and almost had a flu, but then I tried to regain myself again.

Loving him, made me learn to love God.

Because the way that I love him, it is almost about the same as any spiritual religious experience to love God.

The first few times after I met him I feel close, loved, and intimate, the happy moments.

And after that I have to trust,  have faith, persevere, and be patience for him and applicable to the way I have to treat My God, My Beloved Lover.

I have to wait for him to answer my messages, and when he does my heart fonder. The same way I pray to God, and when He answers my prayers, I feel joy.

I wait patiently to meet him again sometime, the same as I have to wait patiently for heaven, to see my true beloved Lover.

I do not want to hurt him and make him disappointed, the same way I have to love my God and not make him hurt and feel disappointed because of my actions, thoughts, or ignorance.

There are times that I feel that I don’t deserve his love and His love, because of my own insecurities and doubt, but I have to learn just to surrender, trust, and have faith in what the Lord, my God, my Beloved Lover intentions in teaching me and showing me the way by loving him.

Don’t Settle Until You Find Your Passion

I was reading at about an article that really do speaks my situation right now. It is about college entrepreneurs who choose to live out their passion rather than continuing on their college career that they find out they do not like.

For many of you who already know what your passion is and what you like and what kind of career you want, I say congrats! Not many of us are like those people though. Many of us have to stumble many blocks just to know what we want to do, what we like, what we are passionate about.

In the article here, there is one passage that strikes me,

it’s painful to discover that the decisions made as a 17- or 18-year-old college student don’t always continue to ring true at 21 or even 27 years old. But what do you do? Stick it out in a career that’s not your dream or pursue your real passions instead?

Yes, and today’s post is going to be about that! You can read rest of the article yourself, it is pretty interesting. 😉

And for the man who can speak about passion better than I do is this guy, Mr. Richard St. John (check it out) :

and also all the elements of success in 3 minutes:

Yes! As I want to state it again, never settle until you find your passion until you find your dream! If you find your passion, you will be successful.

How do you find passion? Well, explore many paths as the video stated. Many people already know what they love, but many successful people are SEEKERS. They do not know what they love until they fell into it.

Stuck in a major you hate? Finish that major while try to seek something that you LOVE, even though people will criticize you for not continuing on the major you’ve studied in. Remember the decision you made when you are 17 or 18 ,that you end up hating your major, does not meant that you are stuck with it. As I want to say:

Your 18 year old self does not define who you are and what you want to be in the future

A passion could be:

  1. a profession
  2. a product
  3. about people
  4. a field

As a closing, here are quotes that I love from the video:

Stress isn’t working 15 hours at a job you like, stress is working 15 minutes at a job you dislike

Do it for LOVE, not for the MONEY

If you do it for LOVE, the money comes anyway.

One more quote from the article :

“You’re going to be way more successful doing something that you love,” she says. “Sure, there are going to be hard days. But don’t settle if you’re not really happy doing what you majored in.”

So Aliens, do not stop until you find what you love, do not settle, trust your heart, your passion, people sometimes will laugh at you, will doubt you, but you will never be truly happy until you find what you LOVE.

Lastly, do you have any experience on finding your passion? What do you think? Anything that you like to share? Leave a comment!



My friend, M.Jek, asked me 2 questions about the term “Beautiful People”, here are her questions:

1. What do you think when you hear “Beautiful People”? In deep reflection, what is the meaning of “Beautiful People”?

2. Do you think you are beautiful?

So I answered her with answers in which I think are satisfying enough. But today, I am not going to talk about my answers to her questions( I might post about “Beautiful People” and my answers in a different post in the future). This made me think about self image. Yes, self image!

Many people including me have something in our mind about our own self image. There are always two things that we consider about our image:

1. How people perceived us.

2. How we perceived ourselves.

I know many people are dealing with this issue. We look at the mirror and not happy of what we see. And we like to stigmatize ourselves for not being “pretty” enough or not “beautiful” enough. There are two attentions regarding self-image:

1. Our face appearance.

2. Our body shape.

Probably many of you are not happy because one or two body parts in your face or in your body. I have to tell you, that you are not alone! So many people suffer from this because the one or two body parts that they do not like. In our life time there are probably many of us who have to deal with friends or family members who do not like how we appear. They tease us, ridicule us, mock us, for the body parts that God given us. I have to say I was one of those people who have to struggle to accept myself and love myself because all those negative things people throw at me. Worse of all, those people who mock me are my family members.

These were the body parts that they said were not “Good Enough”:

1. My eyes. They called my eyes too slanty or too small.

2. My nose. They said that my nose is not pointy enough or does not have a high bridge.

3. My eyebrows. They said my eyebrows were too thin.

4. My teeth. They said that my teeth is protruded.

5. My jaw. They said that my jaw is also protruded.

6. My skin color. They said that my skin color is too dark.

7. My weight. They said that I’m too fat.

And the list goes on and on. And I have to live with that mockery when I was still living with my family. It is hard to really alter the concept of ourselves if we grew in that kind of stigmata. But I change my perspectives and start to accept myself beautifully and lovingly. How do I do that?

1. Do a makeover. A change in ourselves can be nice, but you cannot do it extremely, just one at a time.

2. Be friends with people who accept you and love you as who you are. Be with positive people! You can choose your friends, be with good friends who supports you.

3. Forgive those people because they do not know what they are doing or saying. 😉

People usually make fun of us because they are not happy of themselves. They are in pain. So people, please do not make fun of others regarding physique!

For the people who like to disregard others because of physique, I want you to reflect in the things that you are not happy of.  Try to answer this question:

1. What makes you angry and feel in pain?

2. What do people done to you to make you mock others?

Find the answers, and then, try to make a change and love yourselves even more! (Hey, I might post something in the future about “Pain”)

There’s a video about Objective Beauty and Perceived Beauty:

The summary of the video is this:

There are two types of beauty: Objective Beauty and Perceived Beauty.

1. Objective Beauty is what you see in the catwalk and in the magazines.

2. Perceived Beauty is a full package. It is about from the head to the toe, from the smile, from the way you act, from the way you talk, from the way you think. Perceived beauty is appearance + personality!

So do not let others think you are not beautiful! You are beautiful!  God never created a failure, that is why you are beautiful! 😉

So what do you think? Share your stories! Comment and response are highly encouraged!

One last thing, I would like to thank my friends, Al.Ali and H.K. , as much as you do not know, the two of you really help me to change my perspectives and love myself more. Thank you. :*

That One Thing …

Everyone knows the used to be beloved couple Prince Charles and Lady Diana. In their life time of marriage they were blessed with two kids, but even so they end up in divorce. Charles never actually loves Diana, he cheated Diana just to be with Camilla. The question that pops to mind is: What is wrong with Diana, Charles?

Diana is very very beautiful, she is younger than Camilla, she is a good mother and a good princess. It seems that nothing wrong with her. But why can she never took his heart? What makes Camilla more attractive to Charles?

My friends like to jokingly tease me with some guys. Even though they say good stuff about them, and I have to admit they were great and nothing is wrong with them, it just that they were missing out that One Thing.

My friend V.A.S said to me about that One Thing,”You never knew what that person is looking for.” I knew she meant to be the One Thing that each person is looking for in a mate that she or he finds attractive.

And I believe sometimes love never could grow. Even you already married to that person and have 3 kids, still you could say,”I never love my husband.” I know someone like that.

I watched “How I Met Your Mother”, there’s an episode where Ted Mosby encounter a groom that left his own wedding before tying the knot. The groom’s reason was simple : The bride is a not “quite”. The groom then said that every person has someone that is “destined to be”.

Isn’t it pretty sad that you got married to someone that you never really love or you thought you love that person, and one day someone just come to you and he or she got that One Thing that you have been searching for?

Audrey Hepburn, one of the most beautiful women I have seen, got cheated by her husband to a woman that is less good looking than her. Why did her husband do that? Isn’t she pretty enough? Yet there is something that is more than the eye.

I also believe that you could marry the wrong person regardless in what country, culture, or religion you are, even though that does not mean you have to file for divorce once you figure it out that you marry the wrong person.

I, before, did not know what I was looking for, but the thing is, you have to be open and make friends with many people.  Try to figure out what makes you attracted to someone.

Believe me that One Thing is nothing to do with appearance, it is something about character and personality. It is not about because you admire that person but there is something about that person that you feel comfortable, familiar, and can relate to.

And once you know it, you got it, you and that person will click right away.

So what do you think? Comment and response are highly encouraged!


Dear God, I trust in Thee

Even though my path seems foggy,

the road is full of boulders,

and creatures try to taunt me,

but I believe that You will guide me to the light,

and use me as You please,

as You own me,

that I will wait as You promised,

for I will see that bright future,

as something You said I could never imagine,

with the One person that You’ve chosen for me,

so I might be saved under Your glory,

until the end of times when (I hope) You let me enter Your house.


Your Special Daughter